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If you think it’s difficult to handle the stress of the New Year holiday, then you are not on your own. This is the time people go back to normal after a holiday. The holiday season is a time of excitement and indulgence. There can also be moments of contemplation in this time. For instance, several folk think about reducing the amount they imbibe following the break. There are people who either wish to give up drinking at once, or merely don’t want to consume too much.

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The onset of 2012 is, like any other year, marked by pledges, like resolutions. It is not unheard of for individuals to give up something that’s damaging for themselves. Folk often want to quit smoking cigarettes or pick better consumption. There is a large proportion that decides to control their drink. It more often than not feels like an impossible mission. There are several men who want to cease alcoholism, but do not know how. Men may require information and guidance and there is an avenue available to them.

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In my other articles I have described the process of grief and how and why do we grieve over a loss. In this article I describe the factors that delay or disallow a person to bring the issue of a loss to a closure. When the closure does not happen, the person is pre-occupied with the departed person. This prevents the person from moving on in life. So the grief of this person may persist indefinitely.

In my clinical practice, I have come across two kinds of people in whom grief can continue indefinitely.

The first factor that delays completion of the process is Anger. When a person carries anger against the departed or dead person, the process of grief does not conclude. In all such cases it is better to work through issues of anger with the person first before starting grief work. For example I once saw a man whose father was an alcoholic. The alcoholic father used to be physically violent when he had consumed some alcohol. The son had a difficult time letting his father go. Only when the anger had been worked through, did he come to peace with himself and his father. If the anger would not have been addressed, the grief could not have come to an end for a long time. No amount of counselling or psychotherapy would have been of help.

The second factor that affects grief process is Fear. When a parent dies, for example, the children can carry the fear even after many years. Usually this would occur when the parent was authoritarian but there may not be any violence involved. Emotional abuse involves threat, rejection and neglect. People who are emotionally abused may have difficulties in concluding grief. Fear has to be dealt with first before the grief process can be concluded.

Most of the people would be able to complete their grief over a year. But some of them can do it sooner. The more a person is relaxed, the less time it will it take to finish with their grief. The more the person feels insecure in themselves, the longer it is going to complete the grief process. Anger and fear make a person feel insecure. These emotions when held on to, disallow a person to move on in life, by keeping them pre-occupied with the memories of the departed person.

Pradeep K Chadha is a psychiatrist who specialises in helping patients with meditation and imagery using little or no medication. He is the author of “The Stress Barrier-Nature’s Way To Overcoming Stress” published by Blackhall Publishing, Dublin. He is based in Dublin, Ireland.

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In Practical Spirituality IIIA we discussed ways to improve your social life. We mainly focused on how you could find the right group of people. We explored choosing to interact with friends and peer groups with the right qualities, instead of just engaging with any group, especially those who considered themselves the in group. We also spoke of letting go of groups that might be damaging to your psyche. In this entry we will explore ways that you can use to prepare yourself to interact with you new found group. Are you a quiet contemplative person, or a shy person, are you a person with a lot of anger or one who is very confrontational? Does this get in you way sometimes?.

In our journal on Dealing With Anger, we addressed ways that you can change anger to a more positive and productive type of energy. You can stop being confrontational and become a loving person through the exercise of Tang Lin as described in that previous entry. Tang Lin can also be done to change fear and shyness. The main idea here, however, is that you can take control of your life and your behaviors. When you see a person that is very likeable and socially active, someone that you would like to be like, look at the way that they interact with other people. Study their behavior; that person can be your model for behavior.

You will probably notice how relaxed they are. You will probably notice they have the gift to draw other people out in the conversation, and they know when to disclose information about themselves. In order to be this way you have to fully accept yourself. If you don’t think your own life is interesting you won’t say much about yourself. If you don’t think that other people’s lives are interesting you will talk too much about yourself and won’t allow them to say anything about their lives. I guess the main point in interacting with others, therefore, is to really care about the person with whom you are speaking and yourself.

You can work on doing things like smiling, practicing the behaviors that connect you with other people, and developing a more positive social aura. Here is something concrete that you can do. If you would like to say, increase the amount of time you smile, what you do first is take a baseline of the behavior. Try to be aware and notice when you are smiling. Take a small pad with you and make a check mark each time you smile. Do this for about 3 days to a week. You can even make a chart with the time of day on it, or the type of place you were in so that you can track that too. After you have completed this baseline take a look. You will probably be surprised at how little you smile.

Look for the places and circumstances when you were smiling and when you weren’t. Next you work at increasing your smiling behavior. Go in front of the mirror and smile daily. When you exercise, watch TV, or engage in any activity habitually, smile throughout the activity, even if it is something that is grueling and unpleasant.

Smile as much as you can purposely. Make a contract with yourself. Measure the baseline every week and give yourself something really great each week if you smile the right amount of times, or the right length of minutes per week, depending on your baseline and contract. Make yourself earn something that you really like to do, like going to the movies, or taking a walk at the beach. If you don’t get the right amount of smiles that week, don’t do it.

Smile, smile, smile, especially when you are in nervous situations. You can even set up a series of exercises, or meditations where you smile throughout the exercises. If you can learn to smile naturally through grueling exercises or during nervous experiences, when you first meet a person and you are a bit nervous, you will smile automatically.

As you do more meditation, if you are meditating, you will become more aware of the thoughts and feelings that rise up and create awkwardness in your relationships. You can then work to change those behaviors by recognizing them early, before they manifest themselves. Until then this is a good model to use, along with the meditation. This model can also be used to decrease behaviors too.

Meditation, however, is most crucial in taking control of your life. It may seem boring to you, or tiring, or difficult, but meditation is the medicine for the psyche and the soul. It is worth struggling in order to reach the place of peace that only meditation and prayer brings us too, especially if you have a tendency to move toward depression. Some psychologists think that depression comes as a result of a chemical imbalance. As long as you take you medication, they say, things will be all right.

Other psychologists think that depression comes as a result of horrible external situations, or because we have learned to be helpless and to give up on life. Some mystics and spiritual counselors think that depression comes from the fact that more attuned people realize what the world can be, but when they look around and see all the pain and the suffering that is created by human beings and have to live in that world themselves, they feel empty and trapped. Depression, in this case, is a hunger for connection with the Divine.

Whatever you believe, these tips will be helpful. These articles come primarily from the mystic point of view. They are not meant to take the place of psychotherapy, but to compliment it. If they are not working for you, however, there is always help from mental health professionals. Do not discount them, because they do a great deal of work and depression can be a very serious problem.

In our next journal entry we will write our final article on depression. We will discuss how we can find the core of the problem and then begin to deal with it. Until then, keep going in and looking up, because the same beauty out there in the heavens is inside of you at the center of your own being.

Dr. J. W. Gilmore is a Writer, Spiritual Director, Anti-oppression Consultant and Wellness Consultant. He is a Certified Massage Therapist and Reflexologist, a Reiki Master Teacher, a Martial Arts Instructor and a Spiritual Coach living in Costa Rica. For our practical spirituality journal visit: http://www.dswellness.com

On Being Love’s Warrior: A Warrior’s Manual on Becoming the Compassionate Warrior Within, Dr. Kendall Ronin.

So here’s the story… I moved to Stroudsburg, PA this past July to become Rabbi at Temple Israel of the Poconos. As part of the move, I needed to find new doctors who would look after me. I made an appointment with one of the local specialists, who suggested that I should have my lungs checked as part of a thorough physical examination. So he scheduled me for a C.A.T. scan, expecting to find nothing out of the ordinary. Well, surprise, surprise! When I returned to the doctor for the results, he told me that there was a spot on my lungs, and he could not rule out lung cancer!

Next he scheduled me three days later for a P.E.T. scan, which would definitely show if anything was going on in my throat. I came to the surgery center and they inserted some dye through an IV, which would flow through my entire upper body, and by means of the the scan, would clearly allow the radiologists to diagnose any real or potential problems. So I lay still for sixty-five minutes, trying to “zone out,” actually counting the seconds (one thousand one, one thousand two, one thousand three…) and pretty much trying to act like the macho man that I did not feel like. My doctor had scheduled the next appointment for a week later. I asked him for an earlier date, but he said it took that long for the results and the evaluation of the scan. Actually, that was all done two hours after the test, but who knew?

I had a whole week to think about dying of lung cancer. What made it really scary was–my Mother died of lung cancer. She was a heavy smoker, I have never smoked, but I had already presumed that it was genetic and that my life was over. And then I began to plan. What would I do with the time I had left? First, would I take chemo and radiation for the cancer? I decided absolutely not, since I was not prepared to spend the next year suffering through mind-and-body-numbing treatments which would at best give me another month or two of life which was not-life. I have seen too many of my congregants and friends go through that, it was not for me. Would I quit my job as Rabbi? Yes, I would have done that immediately, and I even began working on my final sermon. I would have told my new congregation that there were places in this world that I wanted to visit with Ellen, and that I especially needed to return to Israel for a final visit, so I was resigning from the pulpit, to live out the rest of my life the way I wanted to. I would thank them for the lessons they have already taught me even in the short time we had together, and I would ask their forgiveness for any pain I had caused them. In short, I would complete my relationship with them before I left.

After seeing other parts of the world, I would return home and begin to travel all across the country, giving a lecture to anyone who might be interested, entitled: “Final Life-Thoughts of a Grateful Rabbi.” The lecture would talk about gratitude being my first-choice feeling on learning of my impending death. Above all, I am grateful for the life that I had been granted; I considered my life a precious gift to me from God. After gratitude comes everything else, all other feelings and thoughts. The world can only be repaired when gratitude replaces entitlement, when we move outside of ourselves toward others in our lives. I was not angry, just sad that I would not live to see my kids’ life-cyle events or share in the lives of my grandchildren as I had hoped to be able to do. My hopes, dreams and aspirations have been reached, I would die fulfilled and happy. If my time had come, I would be ready, unafraid and unashamed of what I had accomplished in my life. I know that I have mattered to lots of folks, and my teachings and my memories would be my final gift to them, and to the Universe.

I fully believe that when our mission on this earth is accomplished, we can then be ready and prepared to leave this world for whatever comes next. The problem is–who among us knows when that will happen? How will we know when our life-missions will have been accomplished? We don’t, so that when God has decided that my earthly purpose has been fulfilled, who am I to argue? Even more, I have known too many women and men who have lived “too long,” that is to say that their final years were spent in pain or in a nursing home, or totally unable to communicate with those they love. I would indeed be fortunate, because I would leave this life on my own terms, proud and grateful. And not in any physical pain.

So you see, smart guy that I am, I was sure I had it all figured out. Needless to say, thank God, the results came back showing that the spot on my lungs was just that, some benign scar tissue left over from who-knows-when. I was elated. I really was! But to tell the deep, dark, dirty, honest-to-God truth, I was just a wee bit disappointed at the same time. I was actually looking forward to the last year of my life, I was going to be able to fill the closing chapter of my existence with passion! Between seeing the world, teaching women and men all across America the truths I had learned, finishing my book on grief and hope, perhaps starting another book, my days would be filled with joy and creativity. They would be filled with life, not death, and when the end would come, I would feel that the banquet of my life had been well worth my fifty-nine years of effort.

That’s my story, and it has a happy ending. Sort of. The gnawing-in-my-kishkas question I continue to ask myself ever since this happened is: What’s stopping me from doing all those things I was going to do when I knew I was dying? How many of them can I still do right now, while I am still living? Why will I have to wait until the Angel of Death comes calling for me, for real? It is these questions, not thoughts of my death, which continue to haunt me. Maybe soon I’ll have some good answers.

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Teaching means to change the behavior of student towards positive direction.
For effective teaching, it is very important to know the behavior of student. Behavior means any overt (observable) response or activity by an organism or the way in which an individual behaves or acts. It is the way an individual conducts herself/himself. It can be seen in reference to society norm. Or the way in which one treats others or handles objects.
To change the negative behavior of the student we have to know the factors effecting on it. We can divide these factors into three categories:-

1. Societal factor

2. School factor

3. Family factor

Common behavior problems are stealing, absenteeism, lying, fighting, cheating, lateness, rudeness, destructiveness, smoking, disobedience, abusing.

The factors behind problems behavior can be seeking attention, change in social relationship (example romantic breakup and rebuff) , change of status or group membership, disengaged with school staff, humiliation, impulsive remarks or response, no real harm intended, joking and teasing and you tend to believe it,
Lacks ability to carry out threats, other family or life stress (example divorce, death, move) recent disciplinary action, socially isolated from peers, target of teasing or bullying, other. To overcome on these behavior problems here are some strategies to modify behavior:-

 Set behavior standards: Define classroom rules clearly to everyone and be reasonable, firm but fair, be consistent with student. For the most part, practice what you preach and insist on the general behavior that students must abide by all the rules before they speak/do.

 Keep students busy and motivated: Start class on time, plan for the entire class period, be definite about your lesson plan, relate assignments to students’ interests and use various teaching methodologies according to the need of the topic.

 Keep a positive attitude: Give praise, encouragement and inspiration, be kind but “positively” demanding. Be consistent and tolerating when dealing with a behavioral problem. Be fair when dealing with behavioral problems. Favoritism breeds resentment.

 Control your emotions: Before assigning a task to the students. Keep yourself in place of them. Don’t be tinned-skinned (sensitive to criticism) .Don’t argue with students; however, you may discuss and / or explain. Admit errors if you have made a mistake. Project confidence in yourself. Don’t mind if students ask again and again.
To follow these strategies we can make our teaching effective and modify student’s behavior towards positive direction.

Samer Iqbal

Many people try to hold a raging fire within themselves, but it restlessly and relentlessly gnaws at their core. Some have tried to cover it up with alcohol, numb it with drugs, hide it with shopping, kids, work, or religion, or fuel it with sex. The Baby Boomers looked for eternal youth and to change the world. They thought they would never grow up, but they did. They thought they would change the world and they did.

The previous generation looked for the American Dream. Some found it. Many did not. The present generation seems to be seeking success. Yet, the gap between the “haves” and the “have nots” widens. Each generation and each individual, in turn, searches for something, but it often slips from their grasp. The fire carries both energy and discomfort. The key is to use the discomfort as a motivator and the energy as fuel.

Redfield in the “Celestine Prophecy” talks of the need for a historical perspective. The first man or woman met his/her physical needs. Then he or she explored and conquered the world and put it to their collective service. Now we seek something and we don’t seem to know what it is.

When we are connected to our roots and our souls, passion rises quickly and pushes us the next level of life or learning or love. It does not have to be love of a mate. It could be creative passion, fueling what we do for ourselves, work, community, or family. Anything where the totality of who you are is absorbed in the doing, requires passion. To loose it, is soul death, or at least deep sleep. It will cry to be heard when it sleeps.

I’ve sometimes been afraid of my passion. It seems so fierce at times. I guess I fear it will consume me and nothing else will matter. I know that can happen. I’ve had a small taste of it when I work for hours into the night, so absorbed by my work that I forget time, sleeping, and eating. But, I also know that I must have time in my life to live the every day life of doing the mundane things that must be done. Balance is probably still the key, but you must not loose your passion all together. Your life will be too dry and dull without it.

Remember your first love? Nothing else mattered. You felt as if you would walk to the ends of the earth for that love. Remember that? While that first passionate, all consuming love does not last, it gives us a taste of a force within ourselves that carries tremendous energy. Look for your passion and it will find you.

“It is the discouraging veil of darkness, falling over the
sparkling whiteness of earlier nights, which sends a vein of
despair running through our souls.”
– Dr. Frederick Cook

As days grow shorter in the winter and light becomes less
available and less intense your hypothalamus responds by
shifting your body rhythms into those resembling
hibernation. You may feel an increased need for
carbohydrates, contracted energy, diminished sex drive,
lower motivation, more sluggishness and, in some cases,
feelings of depression. For those living in darker, more
northern exposures this shift in body rhythms can even go
so far as to resemble clinical depression.

This shifting in body rhythms is known as Seasonal Affective
Disorder (SAD). The negative effects of SAD can be
experienced from November through March with February
and March often being the peak months for experiencing
symptoms. Purposeful exposure to sunlight, full spectrum
indoor lighting and a light box have all been shown effective
in easing the body through this seasonal change. Dawn
simulation, however, might be even more effective than
simple light exposure.

Our body clock is set to respond to the first light of dawn and
is wired to awaken our body through stimulation by the
sunrise. Even behind closed eyelids, your eyes are
sensitive enough to receive the first light signals of dawn.
These sunrise signals register with your hypothalamus and
tell your body to transition out of dreaming. They raise your
body temperature and cortisol levels getting your primed to
engage with your day.

As the sun continues to rise, higher light intensity stimulates
our neural activity to progressively shift from sleep to full
awakening. This is naturally a gradual timed progression
from sleep to arousal – a little different than blasting yourself
out of slumber with the shrill of an alarm clock.

Dawn simulators are devices that mimic the progressive
lighting of a sunrise and gradually wake you following the
body’s natural patterns. As you reconnect to the natural
rhythms of the body using a dawn simulator mimicing the
natural sunrise, you may experience benefits such as
clearer thinking, more positive moods, increased energy,
and feeling more rested in the morning – and be less SAD.
Dawn simulators are available in many retail stores, health
food stores, online and through catalogues.

(Or you could install a skylight over your bed – my personal
solution.)

“Let there be light.”
-Book of Genesis

Mary Ann Copson is the creator of the Evenstar
Mood and Energy Management System for Women.
With Master’s Degrees in Human Development and in
Psychology and Counseling, Mary Ann is a Certified
Licensed Nutritionist, a Certified Holistic Health
Practitioner, a Brain Chemistry Profile Clinician, a
Professional Life Coach and Human Development
Consultant. For resources about reconnecting to your
natural rhythms through better management of your
physical, emotional, mental, psychological and spiritual
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